2019 has been a whirlwind so far! Surely we say that every year, but it still seems true.
This has been the year of transition and change for Magnetic Hub.
I shared some news in February that described my reasoning for the way Magnetic Hub is now operating. You can re-read that blog >>> here.
We are now a free community model - no more fees, no more guest visit bookings. Just come along if you wish and find out about meetings and topics via our closed Facebook group >>> here.
So how has it all been working out? Well, I'd say very nicely.
On my wedding day, nearly 12 years ago, my Dad made a memorable speech. He said something like this, “Michelle is known for her GUESS WHAT?! phone calls. Every time she calls and the opening line is ‘Dad, guess what?!’ I know she’s got something big to tell us and it will be out of the blue.'“
On Sunday 2 September 2018, I stood on a stage and talked for about 15 minutes. It was pretty hard, but also pretty awesome. I spoke about bothering - how we often don't - and why, maybe, we should.
So you've ended up leading a team. You know how you got here, you were complicit, there was an offer and an agreement. This is your first leadership role – perhaps it's paid or perhaps it's not. I've had both kinds of leadership roles, both count. You did make this choice, so how come it is not quite as it seemed? Time has gone by and 'stuff' has started to creep in.
What has happened here?
Tell me if you disagree with this statement: we are all a fabulous hot mess of contrasts, not a single one of us has life fully sorted. Right? Life is not an insta story of highlights and filters. It's also about washing up and sitting in traffic and not getting the job. We can easily lose sight of the balance of things, so here's my raw look at my month
Anyone else feeling a bit odd?
It's a slightly weird time of year, Christmas has been and gone but we're not quite counting down to midnight on New Year's Eve yet.
It's a media-soaked time of year: photos from beautiful beaches, photos of food and family and friends. Adverts for product sales and brand deals so painfully good 'you won't want to miss out'. News recaps from the year that has so nearly ended, reflections, #bestnine, memories shared. The self-help industry is busy helping itself to sell you a diary, a journal, an online course, a book.
At the start of a speaker event we held this year, I stood chatting to some women who had come as a group from a large corporate organisation in town. One of the women was attending a Magnetic Hub event for the first time and raised the topic of how events and meetings that are for only women are perceived. She re-told the discomfort she felt when invited to a lunch for women in leadership recently, how she had hesitated and felt disinclined to accept the invite. She said, 'if I knew the guys at work were all going out for a lunch and I wasn't invited because I'm a woman, I'd be banging on the door of the restaurant demanding to be let in!'
She was raising the question, is it OK for women to gather and exclude men? Is it unequal?
Everything is energy. From chocolate to Chernobyl – everything is energy, right?
At our August speaker event, Lee-Ann Jordan shared some amazing insights on intuition and the growing body of evidence from quantum physics that confirms our hunches and gut feelings have a solid base in science. At a very base level, we are all made of the same stuff. Neil de Grasse Tyson says it well:
We are part of this universe; we are in this universe, but perhaps more important than both of those facts, is that the universe is in us.
Magnetic Hub is effectively a circle of women. We bring our whole self, we bring our triumphs and our roadblocks. We share, we listen and we help one another. We definitely improve the situation for women in our community, month after month after month.
We're all working on stuff, right? We all know (either in a blindingly obvious conscious way, or in a niggling hunch sub-conscious way) what we need to work on. I liken it to a mirror in our soul. When we glance at our mirror, we see a true reflection of who we are – and sometimes it's terrifying. Sometimes we shudder and look away very, very quickly. The inner 'me' is not very polished, it's all of me, even the ugly raw painful parts. Sometimes the 'me' we are projecting outwardly is a more comfortable version to stick with. It's familiar, it's got lots of layers, the corners are soft and nothing pokes at us.
I'm Michelle, based in Hamilton, raising two boys, a ginger cat and many vegetables. I have been involved with the work of Magnetic Hub since March 2015 and consider it 'home' in many ways. Accustomed to leading female-only groups, I continue to be energised by the beautiful wisdom that unfolds from women in a room, talking together. Read my musings and learn about our work - newsletter sign-up below... Enjoy. Michelle x